Ever since I was a little girl, I have been reading the advice columnists in the newspaper. It's because I always had to be reading something at breakfast. First, it was the back of the cereal box. Then, the comics in the paper. Next to the comics are the advice columns. I credit them towards the cultivation of a major portion of my manners and behaviors.
Lately, for obvious reasons, I really home in on topics regarding in-laws. This Ask Amy column from today is every woman's nightmare. I remember when I was getting married, reading all the wedding chat forums where the brides-to-be complained about their fiancé's mother. I've always counted myself as lucky to have such a great relationship with my mother-in-law.
I'm not going to lie, living with her has tested my patience a few times. I did worry that there would be a conflict between her and me for Bruce's attention. I predicted that she would resume her natural inclination to take care of him, when the role now belongs to me. Those things have happened, and I'm sure they'll continue. I've actually had to remind him on one occasion, "You are married to me, not your mother". He knows, but it's difficult for him to have his worlds collide like this.
So I love Amy's advice here that "the marriage needs to be at the center." This rule should apply to all couples, regardless of how close to or how far from their in-laws they live. This rule should be remembered during the angriest times and the happiest times.
Everyone should have a sign in the home where they can see those words daily. I'm thinking about making one for our room!
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